#accidental misgendering

[eggonicayto]

How Coily and Posy met 😭😭

[askanonbinary]

Hiya! Do you have any advice on not misgendering yourself (out loud and in your head)? I recently came out as agender, I come from a very suburban area where nb wasn’t really a thing, I’m also kinda old to be figuring this out. But I still constantly accidentally refer to myself as a girl and recently some assholes I work with have used this as an excuse to misgender me maliciously. I feel like it’s automatic to just call myself a girl or woman. Somehow it’s easier to remember my friends genders than mine LOL. Any tips? Thanksss

Practice by talking about yourself out loud. just walk around and narrate what you're doing in the third person. say your pronouns whenever you can.

If you hear others routinely misgender you, it gets easier to misgender yourself because you are used to responding to it. so you're used to hearing it and thinking of yourself. so the best way to ameliorate that is to hear it spoken out loud correctly more than you hear it incorrectly. which sometimes means you're going to have to do it yourself!

[lilliananightshadethesilvermage]

My coworker/friend forgets that I'm nonbinary sometimes because I don't correct people on my pronouns especially not at work. This is relevant because it created a funny situation when I was working with her. We were moving some furniture, and it was rather difficult to move. After we had moved it, she started to say something like anything can be accomplished with two capable young ladies, she then paused right after saying ladies and rephrased it to capable young people.

[capri851]

Kmsing because I misunderstood something in Spanish TWICE and misgendered someone without meaning to 🥰

[shinydoorknobs]

I just remembered the funniest time I was ever misgendered. My very close friend of 11 years still messes up my pronouns (fair enough he knew me exclusively as a She for 8 of them it's easy to make mistakes) but this was the best one.

I cannot remember what the conversation was but he tried to correct himself and just made it worse and wound up calling me

She-He-It-They

[ambercast]

"Wait, no," Blue said, grabbing Nick's wrist gently. "Sorry. You don't look stupid." He shook his head as he looked them over. "I've just . . . never seen a guy in a skirt before. I mean. Shit." He grimaced as he released Nick's wrist. "Sorry. I know you're not a guy but . . . you know what I mean. Right? It's just . . . it's different. But not in a bad way. A good way. A really good way."

Nick felt their heart start to race after they'd opened the door to let Blue in, and Blue just stood their staring, not saying anything. "I - I look stupid. I kn-knew I should have wor-worn something else. I - I'll go chan-I'll change. Don'-don't go. I'll - it won't take long" they said, taking a step back and starting to turn

[pokemonblack3white3]

I'm back with more transfem Ingo (aka Myrtle)

[elftwink]

it is actually wild how cis people pretend "can you please not misgender me" as some sort of egregious demand that we're sooo unreasonable for and how we should just be able to brush it all off no matter what, considering not only do cis people get wildly offended when they're misgendered but also when they accidentally misgender someone they believe to be cis they practically get down on their knees and beg for forgiveness, so great is the social transgression they just committed. they really expect you to be mad as hell. obviously water is wet but sometimes i think when you're told over and over and over again that you're making a big deal out of nothing and everyone else is actually so chill about misgendering, it's important to recall that cis people are by far the least chill about being misgendered, and that in the absence of trans people, cis people all agree that being misgendered sucks and the person in the wrong who needs to apologize is the misgenderer, even if it was an accident (in fact especially so). like everyone implicitly understands the discomfort in being misgendered, and when they insist that it isn't uncomfortable, what they actually mean is that they think you deserve the discomfort. i think we should stop letting these assholes mince words and feign ignorance about something they understand perfectly well. if u all were literally half as chill as you expect us to be we could blanket the earth in 10ft of snow

[morallygaymwah]

Two and a half hours and an iced coffee later....

(This is honestly so fun, thanks for initiating this, @ppkm-week)

[manyunhappygreenies]

hops on the transfem rise leo boat, and never looks back.

[rwby-confess]

Confession #396

[brown-spider]

#1 trans ally

[hrh-prince-butt]

btw since the rwrb movie is obviously gonna be bringing in a lot of new fans, here’s a little heads up for those who are unaware:

casey mcquiston, the author of red white & royal blue, uses they/them pronouns and is not a woman!

that’s all, have a nice day (:

[theexhaustedqueer]

The thing is, Noir understood something fundamental about non-binary people when he created Oobtaglor Oobtaglorbur, and that is the fact the we all desperately crave to be formless oozes. I don’t know about you but peak gender euphoria for me is being a colourful blob that can manifest hands at will but is never constrained to one shape or form. Anyway, I love you Oobsy baby, thank you for representing the they/them nation in more ways than one

[hive-sight]

Concerns 1

Sentients. This one has news. Upon encountering Raxor in the halls of the ship, this one inquired into their change in disposition. What could crush the spirit of this one’s companion so?

Raxor’s response… It is worrying.

--- TRANSCIPTION BEGINNING ---

RAXOR:        The Terrans… they do not enjoy war.

ELYSIA:        That is good, yes? Too many of the new races seem to revel-

RAXOR:        No.

ELYSIA:        No?

RAXOR:        They are a war race. Their history and evolution are paved in the ashes and blood of their enemies. Yet they do not revel. The Skellesian Bloodmites revel. Their weapons are made to draw out battle and prolong suffering. Barbed rods for the rending of flesh. Heated blades to ensure the enemy stays standing no matter how much is chopped off.

                      The Stol’oon of Grumha revel. Their cowardly tactics involve slowly terraforming the planets of surface-bound races while they are defenseless to stop them. Slowly cooking as the atmosphere of the only home they have known becomes their crematorium.

                      The Terrans? They do not revel in war. They hate war.

ELYSIA:       This one does not understand. The race was molded by war, yet hates it? Do they hate what it has made them? Are they a drink that hates the shape its container has forced upon it?

RAXOR:       They hate the acts. This one asks Elysia to consider, if one despised an action but the action was needed, what would they do?

ELYSIA:       This one does have experience with this. This one dislikes having to configure variables in simulations. This one wrote a script to automatically program variables if given a planetary identification code.

RAXOR:        Why?

ELYSIA:        To get it done as quickly… and…

RAXOR:        Yes.

ELYSIA:        By the Queen. Have the Terrans… streamlined… war?

--- TRANSCRIPTION ENDING ---

This was not the end of the discussion, Raxor proceeded to request a cancellation of the mission. They claim that the Queen would not have allowed the mission had she known.

Unfortunately for Raxor, after more than the expected number of delays, the ship has already entered the Sol System.

On this, the Terran Date of May 21st of 2030, or XD 4682C 4A 2L, and with an uncertain future, this is Elysia of Xyloptha, signing off.

[bonefall]

I like that Waspstar's name has some symbolism to it! Real wasps having a reputation of stinging without reason or being aggressive, when in reality they're normally just protecting their hives..

Oooo, thanks for pointing out, that's delicious.

Most of the time, Canon!Waspwhisker has blue eyes since he's a gray and white cat... but none of his kits have blue eyes anyway, and there's too many cats with this color scheme anyway.

So maybe I'll make BB!Waspwhisker have BRIGHT yellow eyes, just like a yellowjacket. I'll even make the gray patch on xeir head resemble the T-shape that a common wasp has. This mark helps distinguish a more "aggressive" common wasp from the passive (but larger) german wasp

Xey're not trying to hurt you, so don't try to hurt xem. Come openly, speak calmly, perhaps make a small offering of meat and sweets and you'll see no problems.

CW: BUG FACE. Insect. Close-up head of a wasp.

[ID: A common wasp. From top down, its head is striped black, then yellow, then a black stripe connects its antennae and dips downward into a T. A final black stripe defines its mandible and "lips."]

Funfact; the common wasp is rare in the US, but the German wasp has been widely introduced. If the yellowjackets seem "smaller" in the UK, that's probably because you're looking at a common wasp!